End the Cycle of Unhealthy Communication

Control dramas are unconscious, defensive behaviors that many people use to get their way with others. Most people engage in this unhealthy conduct without realizing it, and regardless of intent or self-knowledge, it can leave the other person feeling misunderstood, unbalanced, and depleted. This can stem from childhood modeling and wounds, for example being denied expression of emotions. Not being checked in with on your emotions. However, you are an adult now and need to take control in regulating your nervous system and emotional body.

Treating others poorly or being covert can lead to toxic habits. They need to be recognized and acknowledged so you can choose to heal from them. Also checking yourself as they come up in the moment as they will not just dissolve over night. You most likely are modeling this behavior to your most cherished loved ones and all entangling yourselves in your wounded habits and traits. It is important to realize you are not your past and we all had some sort of modeling in our experience of childhood and experiences of life. However choosing to be opposite of what we can recognize as to be toxic and unhealthy patterns is essential in your healing journey.

Have compassion for yourself but acknowledge how your own ego has acted from its lower self towards you, your family and people in every day life. People want to create more distance and boundaries when they can recognize this or experience it first hand. Others are choosing to put the fire out and let the situation cool down before communication. These are healthy ways to make sure the connection, relationship and individual aren't violated so bad that they are forced to walk away with love from a distance.

Notice who in life inspires you to be your best self. Who is their best self the majority of the time while acknowledging and correcting their ego self. Look to what they model to you in their connections and strive to apply that to yourself. Give your inner child love not by making excuses or blaming outside of you. Take your power back and create the balance you need while healing and creating wellness.